Step Mother

Things are getting harder and harder by the day. I feel that I could never stop loving him and I don't know if I want to stop. I am getting so much pressure from my family to leave him. My soon to be step mother Vicky stated in and email to me that if I stay with him that "it is a very clear indicator of your values and your state of mental and emotional health". How is someone that I don't know very well going to tell me what my values and emotional state are because I choose to stay with my husband.

This lady has brought nothing but hell to our family and is trying to continue this hell into my current marriage.

The story behind Vicky goes as follows.

My mother died two years ago from an "accidental overdose" of Oxycontin. Turns out she was addicted to the drug and had been for many years. She discovered that if she chewed the medicine that it gave a heroin like effect. It also turns out that our doctor had been over prescribing her medicine for years. So when my sisters found her on the floor after church one night, that's when it my life changed for the worst.

My dad became depressed and lonely, as any normal human being world after loosing their wife of 25 years. After only three months he began looking for someone. Our councilors told us that this was not healthy and he needed to take some more time for healing. He didn't like that idea so he found a new councilor. He went on all kinds of dating sites and started dating women half his age. He would tell me about girls that were 23 to 25. Now I am only 20 so they could be my sisters. Then he got involved with match.com and found Vicky. They "fell in love" and a few months later got engaged. Their engagement didn't last long though. Vicky is the kind of person that needs no one but herself.

Somehow they got over their differences and began to "fall in love" again. She is controlling and mean to my dad and his children. They are currently engaged again and living together as of recently. I don't like her. Its not that I don't want him to be happy. He has brought home some women that I absolutely loved and adored, but Vicky is no such thing.

So now this lady who I barely know is telling me that I NEED a divorce and NEED a councilor. I understand the importance of a councilor, don't get me wrong, but if I am going to be forced to see one, that will not go over well. I don't know what to do about this woman. She is not welcome in my life but I am being forced to live with the fact that my dad might spend the rest of his life with her.

Needless to say, I told Vicky to stop emailing me because she is stressing me out. I know everything that she is telling me but she insists on talking to me like I am ten. She also talks to me as if I am the one at fault. It must be my fault because I choose to marry a man who I KNEW would do this. Is this right?